Discoveries came on the heels of my decision to grow. It was a choice to work through it it was a choice to learn what I could about myself and our marriage it was a choice to be open to changing my behavior first. Choosing to Grow: Through Marriage is the story of how I got here. It is not a fix-all manual, but it is a real account of the possibilities. We all have the capacity for change and growth we just have to choose to do it.